I have heard this a thousand times, and have mistakenly repeated it hundreds of times.
The difference between confidence and Arrogance is a thin line.
As I have said before, one of the advantages of writing about your thoughts, your ideals, and your values is that you are forced to define them in black and white. This means you have to evaluate them, consider other perspectives and opinions, and accept that you don’t know everything.
Confidence is one of those topics.
The truth is that the difference between Confidence and Arrogance is insecurity, be it your own or the other persons. Confidence is believing in yourself, believing you are a better person today than you were yesterday. Arrogance, on the other hand, is believing you are better than others. Notice that it’s about comparing against other people to make yourself feel good. It’s about minimizing the value of others. It’s about compensating your own insecurities.
There is another side to arrogance that most people don’t consider, and it is perceived arrogance. Some people might think of confident people as arrogant, not because the person is actually arrogant. They project their own insecurities and try to minimize that person’s confidence. Again, it’s about insecurities.
Just make sure you become a better man than you were before. Confidence will come naturally.
this post first appeared on Being Caballero.